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Anonymous: I really like this boy but he's very popular and intimidating. The thing is, we don't talk a lot. It's just that i feel like we are supposed to be friends or more than that. We have a lot of things in common. We're smart, helpful, love to mess around and everything. I just can never build enough courage to even say hi. I asked my friends, what should I do. They always said, i know you can do it etc. It never work. I'm lost, I really like him. I just want to be friends at least. Strong advice?

Look, I know you feel that you don’t have the courage to just say “hi”, but it’s a short word. Just like, say it while you’re passing by, say it when you see him in the hallway or something and just say hi and continue walking. And then once you’ve said that, and once you feel that you can start a short conversation with him, like, “Hey! How are ya? You’re in my (insert class here) right?” or if you don’t have a class with him, just be like, “You’re (insert his name here), right? I’m (insert your name here)” and then start talking about what you two have in common. :) Don’t worry, to get to know people, you gotta open up a bit. :)
-Nancy 

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Anonymous: My boyfriend talks about sexy models a lot and sometimes it makes me feel like I'll never be good or pretty enough to meet up to his standards. I probably sound really needy and stuff but idk, I can't help it. I don't wanna tell him either because I'll seem needy and clingy or something. It just makes me feel really bad and idk what to do..

You need to bring this up with him. He’s probably hinting something and that’s pretty rude of him. There’s no need for you to feel any sort of insecurity. If he doesn’t like you as you are, then he doesn’t deserve you at all. 
Either that, or he feels he can open up to you about girls he finds attractive like he would to a friend.

No matter the case, you need to let him know that you feel this way and tell him what he can do to change that. You’re his girlfriend, so it’s okay if he thinks about the sexy girls, but talking about them all the time to you is only going to bring you down. Girls do the same by thinking about sexy guys, but not often do they talk about these guys with their boyfriends, so he should respect that.

-Steven

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Anonymous: To be honest I have inferiority issues. I care about things I shouldn't. I'm not even a malicious type of person, and I hate hurting others and causing others pain. It's just that, when I see others, in spite of whatever I myself have already, I feel that I'm 'lacking'. The real problem is that I'm too hard on myself, and though I'm not a perfectionist I desire to be better than others. What can I do to appreciate myself and other people, both my and their individual strengths and weaknesses?

I can relate because I often feel the same. Don’t feel bad when you can’t meet certain goals you’ve set to assist others. Even right now, I’m very late with answering this, but I’m still trying. I haven’t felt well as of late, but I’m still trying. That’s all that matters. Put effort into what you do and even if you fail, you can say that you at least tried. That’s more than others can say about things they fail at.
You should be happy that you even try, y’know? You’re doing something most people wouldn’t care to do. You’re doing great from what I can tell. So don’t beat yourself up over this. You’re fine. 

-Steven

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Anonymous: I have 2 best friends. One is a boy. He asked me out about a year ago, but I turned him down but now I'm starting to have feelings for him. Now, they're getting closer because I introduced them. Both of their families want them to be together and I feel like I'm being pushed away from both of them, and their families that I used to be close to. Now, I feel like I only like him because she does and I feel like a terrible friend to both of them.

I think it would be in your best interest to let your boy best friend know that you may or may not have feelings for him. Harboring your feelings from both friends wouldn’t be good for you. After you let him know how you may be feeling, he’ll react and you should be able to figure out what you’ll want to do from there. 
It is just VERY important to let him know. As for your female best friend, you should ask her what her intentions are with your other best friend. At least the way you know for sure that they’re getting close like that.
As for feeling left out and pushed away, you may be just feeling that way on your own. It does happen, so don’t feel bad. Just try to include yourself more. And I don’t mean to try and cock block because there may not be anything to block.

-Steven

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Anonymous: How do I move on? It seems like all I'm doing is going back to my ex-boyfriends. & Im not even dating them again, I just miss them & question why we broke up. I can't seem to focus on newer better things that are coming even though I know for sure they are. I'm stuck in the past.

It’s hard to move on and let go. 
It’s a challenge for sure, but you have to think of the better things coming your way. You say you know for sure they’re coming, so try letting go of the past and just pursue the new and better. The easiest way to do this is to lose all contact with your ex boyfriends. Delete their names from your phone, block them on any websites, don’t talk to them when you see them and gradually let go. It’s hard to do, but I think this is the easiest way.
You have to mentally know that you’re better off without them. You need to prepare yourself for letting go of them and realize that you can. Better things are coming your way and if you still hold on to the past, you may not be able to hold on to the better things when they come.

-Steven

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Anonymous: Hi. I've always liked One Direction not for their look and stuff but for their lyrics. I was in a deep pit of depression and their songs helped me through it. I'm still not out of it but before I told my peers that I didn't like them because I was shy of judgment and stuff like that. Now my family members are calling me a poser and a follower. And since they're family it hurts more; thus pushing me deeper into the "pit" which gets me depressed and I just have the urge to cut.

I can relate to what you’r saying, but you know why you like them and there isn’t any reason to feel bad about that just because your family calls you out on it. It’s harsh and rather rude of them honestly, but you know why you like them. They’re lyrics, their words, the way they help you indirectly though their music is why you like them. Being a poser would be to say you like One Direction just because others do, but you know you’re not like that. Don’t be depressed, be proud. You don’t see One Direction as just some diverse eye candy in a package deal of nice accents. They have a deeper meaning to you than that, so embrace that. 
Haters gonna hate.
Also, try not to let your family get to you. If you give them time, they’ll eventually come around to see why you like them. They’re just like any other family. They always assume things they think they know about, but not every child/teen/adult is the same. You have to be patient with them and forgive them for not knowing you so well. I bet even they’re misunderstood sometimes, so it’s very understandable.

-Steven 

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Anonymous: so i just "broke up" with my best friend of 2 years for specific reasons (which I won't go into) and we were both invited to a party at our mutual friend's house next week. i'm afraid that we'll get into a fight (our break up was not a calm one) and ruin everything. i'm also afraid that she'll say stuff behind my back. what do i do?

Keep calm. That’s the first thing and the best thing to do. If she says anything, don’t worry about it. You’re already aware that she’ll say things only to hurt you. I’m not saying these thing won’t hurt, because each word carries their own level of pain to deliver. I’m saying that you have to try not to let what she says or does get to you. 

Enjoy the party, avoid eye contact, but try not to make it seem like you’re doing it out of spite. You’re just trying to have a good time and you don’t want any conflict. Simple as that. If she can’t handle that, then it’s her own problem. Nothing will be ruined if you don’t allow it to be. It takes two to tango in this dance, and she’ll be all alone on the dance floor while you’re having a good time.

Just do you. She’ll miss out on the party and that’s her loss.

-Steven

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Anonymous: So i haven't cut myself in a long time. But, I'm really afraid that I will. I have a lot of stuff going on and it seems like things just keep getting worse. What should I do?

You should gather some music and a notebook.
Listen to your favorite songs and write your feelings into the notebook.
You could also think of what kept you from cutting for so long.
Just stay positive.

Obviously things got bad enough to make you want to cut, but they must’ve gotten better in order for you to have stopped. So things will get better for you. Just stay patient and keep with your music.
Also, talk to a close friend about your day every now and then. It’ll help more than you know.

-Steven 

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Anonymous: So I have a crush on this girl.. and I know someone else that has a crush on her too. He's a real good friend of mine.. should I tell him the truth, or keep it hidden?

Let him know. 
If he finds out some other way, you’ll be considered a backstabber in his eyes. Hiding anything like that would hurt him if he found out some other way.

-Steven 

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Anonymous: My ex boyfriend tells me he misses me and he still cares about me but then heèll stop talking to me for a week or two. What does this mean

He’s probably keeping you around as a backup plan in case things go south with anyone else he may be keeping around.
You may want to be careful around someone like him. 

-Steven

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